So like a month back I watched Spiderman Into the Multiverse which was really cool (if you haven’t watched it, you should). Like many others, I got hooked on the song Miles was jamming to at the beginning – “Sunflower” by Swae Lee and Post Malone. The song is for sure a bop but me being me, I looked up the lyrics. I like to know what I’m listening to and if possible, the meaning and inspiration behind the song. Now I’m going to share my findings with you and make a point or two.
According to a number of sources, the Sunflower symbolizes adoration, loyalty and longevity. Much of the meaning of sunflowers stems from its namesake, the sun itself. Greek mythology has it that Clytie, a water nymph was deeply in love with Apollo, the sun god known for youth and manly beauty but Apollo did not return her love. Instead, he loved Daphne, the daughter of a water god who also did not return his love -(talk about a love cycle). When he tried to force love from Daphne, she asked her father for help and he turned her into a plant to keep her from Apollo. Although Apollo was heartbroken he still did not take notice of Clytie. So legend has it that Clytie sat on a rock staring at Apollo as he moved about in the sky for nine days without food or water. She eventually turned into a Sunflower and some will tell you it is the same reason the Sunflower keeps looking at the sun from the moment the sun rises till he sets.
Now when I heard Swae Lee and Post Malone describe the girl in the song as a Sunflower and how they ‘think her love would be too much’, I just had to wonder and ask a couple of questions: can love be too much? What does that even mean? But then I deiced to play along. If this girl’s love is too much and if that is a bad thing, why don’t they just let her be and move on? Why do they keep on dancing in and out of her life? I kept on thinking about all of this – may be a little bit too much – and I realized it was because this song hit me personally. I have been called a sunflower, maybe not in those exact words but with the same implications.
If I am indeed a Sunflower, is that really such a bad thing? Is it wrong for me to love fiercely, be loyal, and expect the same in return? I don’t think so. I think the problematic thing here is people wanting you to change to suit them. There are guys out there that want sunflowers. Some want roses or even poison ivy. To each his own, right? But what we are not going to do is ignore the fact that the underlying, glaring issue in this song is the guys not wanting commitment. Instead of simply saying ‘oh, I’m not looking for anything serious and it would be a bad thing for me to tie you down’, all these games are played, and there is manipulation, deceit and before you know it, someone’s house is on fire. Just kidding! (I hope). But seriously, why can’t there be straight talk? If you notice someone wants something different from what you want, why don’t you just set the record straight? I’m not only putting this on the guys because there are guy Sunflowers out there and ladies play games too. So everyone – especially those at the back who pretend not to hear – be honest. Please. Because whether you know it or not, you are playing a part in moulding people’s lives and when you wreck someone, by the time they get to the next person, that person has to deal with stuff that could have been avoided.
So please people, on behalf of well, everyone, don’t be selfish. Treat others how you’d like to be treated. Tell the truth. It would make life easier for a whole lot of people. As for my fellow Sunflowers, I think this song is a wake-up call for us to choose who we give our love to wisely and I say choose because love is a choice. Never forget that. Not everyone deserves our love and loyalty. So if that girl or guy shows you they are not willing, please, take your brilliant radiance elsewhere.